My father was married to my step-mother for 28 years before he passed away. When my father died, I changed my view of my step-mother somewhat because she was really nice about the funeral. She made sure to include my father's first children; me and my 2 sisters. I wondered when my father died, did that mean she was no longer my step-mother? How does that work when your parent passes away and they are still married to your step-parent?
It's always been an understanding that if anything ever happened to my stepmom that Ashley would live with me. I have helped raise her since the first weekend of her life. As I've said before, she has her own bedroom at my house and she would be well taken care of.
This past weekend, everything just blew up with Ashley and my stepmom, Liz. She let my step-brother, Kevin and his wife take Ashley. In order to try to control her and get her on a schedule and get something constant in her life.
You can't imagine how much this hurt me. I love Ashley like she is my own child. It broke my heart when I heard that Liz let Kevin take her for "a while". That just proved to me that Liz never cared about me or my feelings. Yes, we got into a little argument during the blow up but still. I tried to make peace and she just totally ignored me like I didn't exist.
I guess once your parent dies, the step-parent isn't your parent anymore and she just proved that point this past weekend to me.
This past weekend was so uncalled for and yet it effected so many lives and broke some hearts. I hope everything works out for everyone involved, but our lifes will never be the same nor the feelings that once was felt for one another.
Posted by tennbrat at August 9, 2006 01:26 PM | TrackBack